What Is Happiness, Anyway?
Updated: Jan 9, 2022
Happiness Around The World
During my travels over the last few years, and to prepare for my project, ‘Buying Happiness Around the World’, I have asked people from different parts of the world what happiness means to them and what made them happy. I wanted to learn if there was a consistency across the globe in what happiness was and if we all found happiness in the same things.
We Are Different
What I learned surprised me. In answer to my question, “what is happiness?” most people, regardless of nationality, begin by listing what makes them happy; friends, good health, great job, traveling, etc.
But what is happiness?
Having lived in North America most of my adult life, I acquired a particular interpretation of happiness. Happiness is something to be pursued. It’s a feeling of joy when you get what you want. According to countless self-help gurus, happiness is an elevated state of being.
What Does The Rest of The World Think?
When I asked a group of German women what happiness was, the first response was, “You Americans obsessed with happiness. In Germany, no one thinks about happiness, let alone ask questions about it.”
The Germans were not unique. I have learned about happiness that most people around the world rarely discussed it or consciously chased it.
The Global Happiness Index
I posed the same question to a group of Danish friends: what is happiness?
The response I got was, “Happiness is feeling good.”
When I asked them why The Global Happiness Index listed them as one of the happiest countries in the world, one lady insightfully responded with, “our expectations on what makes us happy is different from Americans.”
“And what is that?” I asked. She said that in Denmark, feeling content is happiness. And what made them happy? Having a job, and access to health care, education, and equality.
The Pursuit of Happiness
In North America, we appear to pursue Happiness actively and have different expectations on what we need to make us happy: the large house, two cars, high income, and freedom. Happiness is getting what we want—and living the life we want.
What do the Brits think about Happiness? The refrain I heard was, "Happiness is a choice."
I posed the question to philosophical Greeks I have spent my last five summers with, and the answer I consistently got was, "happiness is just being."
What Makes You Happy?
And what makes Greeks happy? It was a resounding "Family and community."
I posed the same questions to Singaporeans, and they looked at me like I was from another planet. "Happiness? What Happiness? Who's got time to think about this?" The response was consistent with the Gallup Poll findings in 2012, rating Singaporeans as "the most stoic society."
What I Discovered About Happiness From My Travels
It is much easier to know how happiness feels than to describe it.
Happiness is about managing expectations. The fewer wants, the happier we are.
Happiness is sharing our time and resources with family, friends, and community.
Happiness is in the small things, such as discovering the perfect coffee in a new city or stumbling upon kindness shown by strangers.
Happiness is a sense of belonging – connecting with people.
A sense of adventure makes us feel happy. Science has shown that novelty increases our feelings of happiness.
Happiness is Flow
What is Happiness? In my interviews with people from around the world, the one response that resonated with me was from an Austrian massage therapist who said, "happiness is flow." She nailed it. Happiness is about feeling a sense of flow.
And what is flow? Flow is an allowing of life to unfold without resistance. And "resting" in the unfolding. I think of a river flowing down a stream. The river is not without rocks, but it appears to flow around the rocks. Happiness is not the absence of difficult or negative emotions. Happiness is an inside job. Everything else is pure 'gravy.'
Is Happiness conditional for you? Are you only happy when things are working out for you?
I did not travel to poorer countries worldwide to look for answers on Happiness. This leads me to my next question, can money buy Happiness?
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